The Injury We Inflict

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The injury we inflict

I read post and listen to the voices of women of all ethnicity and social and economic status and hear the same cry. The cry is how they have a child and the father isn't as involved or isn't supporting them the way the woman would like based on their own expectation of the man.

Not based on his character or integrity but based on a illusion or thought they have conjured up in their own head.

Expectation on her part and actions based on both of them.

See the making of a family starts with something called commitment better known as marriage.

The honoring of a woman on the mans parts of covering her and giving her an identity better known as a wife.

So that he obligates himself before God and Men to be responsible for this woman and the seeds that they produce. Heb.13:5 says God honors marriage and that it is blessed by Him.

Sex never produces love but commitment does. Sex no matter how many times repeated outside of the confides of marriage doesn't make you a person worthy of the others affection.

The man is just taking what you are making available to them.

However when a offspring is produced most women calculate the amount of times you have sexed them and make it equivocal to you owing them honor! What we as women fail to realize is that we have already showed the man how to treat us, we have shown them that we expect to be pleasured and used. Not that I'm somebody that knows my value as a women, but right now i want my needs met and satisfied as does he.

And before I will be available like a drive through I know I deserve a commitment. This knowledge of self worth and thinking gives off a fragrance that will attract the right kind of man.

Believe it or not our behavior and the way we present ourselves brings a certain kind of man into your life.

Now I know I'm going to get negative feed back and or public subliminal post about the point that I'm arguing. But before you that don't agree lose your cool check your mental Rolodex. How many of you are going to say that the situation you got yourself in was a choice? That based on unspoken expectations and blurred actions you assumed a person was going to do this and such? Or are you the victim? The victim of believing a lie you wanted to be true?

All children are gifts from God. No child is a sin. The actions done prior to conception determines wether or not God honors the situation. And we must all live with consequences of our choices.

Some men regardless of loving the woman will care for the child, but a many of our men are raised by the woman with the unspoken expectations and grow to do the same thing that their parents or parent had done. And don't know that wether or not you love the female you should provide for your offspring.

Also the angry wounded mother teaches the child to not assume responsibility for their actions because they are so busy being angry at the man they taught to use their body but never commit to their lives and well being that they create a cycle that needs to be broken. Men who play hot potato with responsibility because their momma and daddy showed them how.

Instead of playing the cards with the hand they basically dealt themselves they forget to fertilize growth in their child or children for a positive outcome.

I'm not talking about women who were married and the person walked out on their commitment.

I'm talking a out trying to manipulate the order of operation and expecting the right answer. I'm talking about the ones that confuse sex for love and commitment. The one that says it takes two but I'm not responsible that I allowed a person that showed me their unavailability, but I wanted to make it into more because he used my body on more than one occasion for pleasure now I want him to be responsible for a life.

Don't confuse sex for love and commitment.

Also don't forget that as much as its the man responsibility to provide its the woman's to be responsible for giving herself away and not paying attention to what a commitment is.

Sex is good but was given to be enjoyed in the union of marriage which consists of a life long commitment. Love is a by product

of commitment and is based on actions. Be blessed and I'd love to hear from you